On Parenting
by Kahlil Gibran
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Lifes longing1 for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you,
Make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with
Yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth2.
The archer3 sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might that
His arrows might go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archers hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
So He loves also the bow that is stable.
